Have you been putting off things that need to get done? Are you procrastinating on your chores? What stops you from going from to do to completed? Are you distracted? Would you rather be doing something else?
For many of you, you may associate chores with negative feelings from childhood. Household chores = bad memories. You might be reminded of being forced to do chores as a child, or like many of my clients, you were never shown how to do many chores, so you don’t really know how. Maybe your parents avoided chores and you are imitating them subconsciously. Maybe your stomach tightens at the thought of doing chores because you associate chores with being painful.
Let’s create a new pattern. It’s time to shift the way you think. Chores = happiness. Think of all the wonderful things that completing your chores would allow you to do. You can finally have people over because your home will be clean. You won’t be late because you can find things easily. You will save money because you aren’t buying duplicates.
For most of us, messy = yucky. Messy also equals embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, shame, stress and more.
Let’s define chores:
The everyday work around a house or farm.
The word “everyday” is key, as being organized requires a conscious, steady effort. You have to maintain your routine for it to last.
Instead of moving towards happiness, we stay in the land of procrastination, watching TV, scrolling through Facebook, and doing anything but what needs to get done. Avoiding. Procrastinating. Staying in a rut. Stagnate. No forward motion.
Do you want to remain unhappy not doing chores? Or find happiness by maintaining your nest?
At what point does being unhappy suffocating in a mess become worse than actually picking up and getting rid of the clutter?
How would you answer these questions, Collectors? Remember, you deserve to be happy! Stop procrastinating and start
What is the hardest part of you for starting a chore? What would you do it you got rid of your clutter? Share in the comments below.
Do you need help getting started? Are you ready to have more happiness in your life? Do you want help establishing new systems and routines? Collector Care works with hoarders, extreme clutter and getting people organized.
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Cats and Clutter
I am passionate about animals! In my home, we currently have Bella, a 12 year-old Chihuahua; four-year old Snap a Chihuahua + Datsun mix, and Jade, a four-year old bearded dragon. Our pets add so much to our lives and I cannot imagine life without them.
I wrote this book for people like my typical client—single, educated, middle-aged or retired women who have pets (usually, at least one cat) and are struggling with weight issues and clutter overload. However, anyone who suffers from chronic disorganization can benefit from this information–whether or not you own a cat!
Are you overwhelmed by the state of your home? Cats and Clutter is an easy to read EBook that will help you learn how to tackle paralyzing clutter hotspots and “cat-astrophes”. I’ll teach you organizing and cleaning tricks that will save you time and money. Spare yourself the embarrassment of uncontrolled clutter and obnoxious lingering pet odors by learning the tools and hacks that I personally use with my own clients. Empower yourself to open your home and heart to what the world has to offer. Invite others into your space and be proud of what you have achieved!
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In my eBook, I share real life case studies on clients I have worked with. I talk about clutter hotspots including the kitchen, flat surfaces, bathrooms, and the entryway. Each hotspot includes a checklist of tasks to complete and organizing products to use.
Cats and Clutter can be used as a quick reference guide whenever you
are preparing to welcome friends and family into your space. It can also serve as a training manual to help you learn how to take care of the important areas of your home.
Has clutter caused your problems with pet odor? Would you like to know cleaning tips and organizing hacks to make life easier? Collector Care can help you and your pets by helping you clear clutter, whether you have extreme clutter, are a hoarder or need some minor help decluttering.
Call Collector Care at 925.548.7750 or email email@example.com to schedule your free 30-minute consultation and learn about how we can help you clear your clutter to make your life, and your pets, easier.
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To ensure success, I have broken down where to begin into many different steps. I have been posting a blog series on Where Do I Begin? Don’t forget to check out the other blogs or if you prefer to listen, check out my podcast: http://hoardganize.libsyn.com
Today we are going to talk about donations. We are half way through the Where Do I Begin? series. Congratulations for making it this far!
I learned a game from the Institute for Challenging Disorganization. I don’t remember the exact words, but I am going to call it Friend, Acquaintance and Stranger. Our bodies have a response when we see each of these people. We also may have the same response with our stuff.
If you see a friend after long time away, you are probably feeling ecstatic. Maybe you have thought about her and what she has been up to. Your whole body reacts: you smile, feel warm, your eyes brighten, and you embrace. You are responding both mentally and physically. You might see items that you cherish as a good friend.
We all have acquaintances such as neighbors and co-workers. Some we don’t really like that much. We see them in the hallway, offer a fake smile, a little wave, avoid eye contact, and don’t want to talk. You have no plans to get together any time soon outside of where know each other. Don’t hate, it’s kind of like meh, whatever.
Acquaintance items around your home are items you don’t care about, a gift you didn’t really like, duplicates, impulsive purchases items that no longer fit, and that don’t serve you. Many are just there collecting dust. This stuff probably got stuck because you are not sure about how you fee about them. This is normal. Try and listen to your body.
Strangers. We were taught never talk to strangers. The stranger items include things you can’t recall acquiring. You aren’t sure how it ended up in your possessions. Or things you can’t stand that make your feel ugly, don’t work or are broken. These are strangers. Your body tends to react to these items. These should be donated or tossed.
Tune in to your body using this game to see how you feel about items. Tune into your body intuition to decide what keep or donate. Your mind can get cluttered during this process and using your body is a great way to help you decide.
Pick up an item. Ask is it a friend, acquaintance or stranger? How does it feel? Practice makes perfect when learning how to do this. This isn’t the only method to use, but try and incorporate when making decisions.
How to Prepare Your Stuff to Donate
Most of my clients hate to wash, repair or find instructions for items they want to donate. I am here to tell you that your stuff can be donated AS IS. Donation centers will wash your items before it goes to facility.
If you are someone who is OCD what I about to tell you might make you cringe. You might not be able to do this, but I really want to try. You do NOT need to neatly fold donations. Take a deep breath. Now you are facing your perfectionism.
I go to donations center daily. I watch people shake out, check for damage before they throw stuff into a bin for bulk washing. All those hours you spent washing and folding are wasted. What else could you have accomplished in that time? Especially if you are a hoarder or have extreme clutter, you are wasting valuable decluttering time.
You might be concerned donation people think you are inconsiderate, or a slob or an awful person. WRONG! The employees are constantly processing stuff and don’t have time to talk about you. I have seen them process thousands of unfolded dirty donations. I have NEVER heard anyone say anything but THANK YOU. They give me my receipt and move on to the rest of their day. If it smelled funky, they never said anything or were disrespectful. They are not going to publicly shame you. If you are concerned your name or address is on the donation slip do you really believe they are going to come find you? Write a newspaper article about you? No. Your fear is not realistic. Many times you can also get a blank receipt to fill out.
Dealing with Perfectionism
Try your best not to fold and wash donated clothes. Perfectionism is getting in the way. Most of my clients are perfectionists. Don’t let your perfectionism or fear of what people think get in the way of efficiency and making steady decluttering progress.
What if you need to mend or fix an item you want to donate? If it is really a quick fix and you know what you are doing, I would say go for it. If it has been sitting around broken in your house for you fix and your house is a disaster, I invite you to let it go.
Why do you feel wasteful or guilty for throwing out a broken item? Be realistic. How long has it been broken? How long will it take to fix? Do you have the right supplies? Is it a hot ticket item and does the donation center desires it? Or is it a mediocre item that might be antiquated or not worth more than a dollar. Think about your ultimate vision. Will fixing something help get you there quickly or hold you back?
No instructions. You know they are somewhere so you have been hanging onto an item until you find them. Most instructions for games, toys, and appliances are now online. I know the perfectionist in you wants everything perfectly together. Remember, the goal is to declutter, so donate without the instructions. These items are taking up space in your home that you need right now. According to Murphy’s Law, you will always find the instructions after you donate. Recycle them when you find them. Don’t call the donation center. Don’t feel guilty or obsess. If you spend time stressing, fixing, and washing your donations, you are putting less energy into your home. Focus your energy on the items you are keeping. Try not to put more energy into donations than you do for you or your home.
I am teaching you how to take control and not be afraid. You are facing yourself and those uncomfortable, and sometimes irrational, beliefs.
What items will the donation center not take? Worn out shoes is a good example. I tell clients, if you would go into the center and not wear the
item today, most likely someone else won’t either. Don’t feel guilty. They don’t have absorbed the cost of something they cannot sell. Most donation centers don’t mend items, so if you have a rip or tear, I invite you to let it go. Don’t make the charity pay the garbage fee. If you have had a shirt for 30 years and it is not ripped or torn, send that to the donation center for people who need it.
When you release a few bags or boxes from your home you can begin to reclaim your space. Where should you take your stuff? Goodwill or Salvation Army do bulk pick up. Do your research and see if bulk pick up is an option.
Using your small bag, load your car and drop off your donations. Try and choose ONE center. You might want each item to go to the perfect place. The decluttering process is about YOU, not donation center. Get rid of all stuff in one trip. Save your time and energy to continue clearing clutter.
Lots of my clients don’t like Goodwill or larger outlets because they feel they are a for profit business. If you don’t like larger donation centers, find a place close by that resonates with you. Disabled kids, cancer, battered women’s shelter; wherever would make you feel good when dropping off.
My point is: don’t make a career out of your donations! Your time and energy is needed in your home and getting your home back together. Let go of that perfectionism so you can move at a good pace. Promise me you will try, going out of comfort zone, especially if you are OCD. These simple steps will save you lots of time.
Next month, we start the second half of the series, What Now? I will talk about important items in the next blog.
What is your biggest challenge when it comes to deciding to donate? What has helped you? Share your comments below.
Deciding whether to keep or donate items is only part of the process in decluttering and getting organized. Collector Care can help! Call Collector Care at 925.548.7750 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to
schedule your free 30-minute consultation to discuss how we can help you with decluttering, hoarding, extreme clutter and getting organized.
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