This month my blogs are going to focus on self-care. I love the song by Crosby, Stills and Nash, “Love the One You’re With.” Why do I love it? Because I believe we can apply it to the clutter, all the stuff and all the objects in our lives. (We can apply it to a lot more, but my blog focuses on hoarding, clutter and organizing!)
If you really think about, clutter is somewhat the opposite of love. We consider it clutter because we aren’t loving it, using it or needing it. Clutter doesn’t bring us love; it can’t be a substitute for love, and it doesn’t bring us love, yet we still have lots of clutter!
So, why do we hold onto things we don’t love? While there are different reasons for each individual and they can be a combination of motives, I am going to share three reasons why I see many people hold onto things they don’t love.
1. We might need it someday. This is a big one for people. Especially if people have faced poverty in their lives they are reluctant to let go of things. I encourage people to focus on the present. If we are always living in the past or future, we might not have a realistic sense of what we need. How can you practice being more present?
If you are worried that you may need something, can you come up with a plan so you can let some stuff go? For example, if you are holding onto gardening items and don’t have a garden, can you research and see if a store in your area rents out gardening tools? How about a local gardening club or a renting network? If you see other options and know you won’t have to go without, that might help you be able to let some things go.
2. We don’t want to offend someone. Have you ever been given a gift you didn’t like but were afraid you would hurt someone’s feelings if you let it go? While it is wonderful to be so concerned about someone’s feelings, if it is creating clutter then it isn’t good for you. Many times people won’t even remember if they gave you something. If the gift is from someone who is no longer in your life, could you take that first step to release it?
If the gift is from someone close to you, could you have a conversation with him or her? Tell them how you love them and are trying to release what isn’t a priority for you? You may discover that you help someone else who is on the journey of clearing his or her clutter.
3. Guilt over the amount of money spent. Do you have something that is hanging in your closet with the tags still on it but you haven’t donated it because of all the money you spent? Do you begin to get angry with yourself and then have a bunch of guilt? First of all, be easy on yourself. Getting upset with yourself will only add to your stress. It’s okay if you aren’t using something you spent a lot of money buying. The important step is to take action now.
This even happens to me! I think, “Gosh, I spent all that money, am I really ready to let it go?” What has helped me is having a charity that I love so that I know what I didn’t use will go to good use and help someone else.
If you are passionate about animals, check out my blog about items that animal shelters need. You might have a lot of these items and could easily bring a nice chunk in one trip! The animals would be really grateful! http://www.collectorcare.com/15-animal-shelter-donation-ideas-helping-animals-in-need/
Are you holding onto something that you don’t love? What would you be willing to let go of right now? Share in the comments below.
Of course, if you are a hoarder or have extreme clutter, there may be deeper issues going on with why you are unable to release things you don’t love. Please don’t beat yourself up about this! The first step is recognizing that you are struggling and could use some support. Collector Care is here to help you if you are a hoarder or who has a loved one who is.
Are you tired of being overwhelmed with things you don’t love? Ready to finally have only what’s important in your home? Collector Care can help you get organized and clear clutter so you can be surrounded by what you love and what brings you joy!
Call Collector Care at 925.548.7750 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your free 30-minute consultation and learn about how we can help you release items that you don’t love, need or use.
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2017 is here! What are you most excited about creating, doing or enjoying? I am excited about getting married this year, watching my son Shane continue to grow and learn, and growing my business and podcast, Hoardganize.
Last month, I posted about where to begin. This is my most asked question as a professional organizer. I created a unique step-by-step plan and basic steps for my clients. You can read that blog post here: http://www.collectorcare.com/cleaning-organizing-new-year/.
In today’s post, I am going to continue how to set up and get organized. I see many people get overwhelmed and try to tackle too much stuff. By doing easy to manage basic steps, you are more likely to clear your clutter!
Preparing to Sort
After you have created your sorting station, next begin to prepare to sort! You are at your sorting station, now what?
You should have space to put containers when you created your sorting station. The first step is to grab the following items: 4 EMPTY containers for sorting. It doesn’t matter what they are—it can be the brown paper bags from the grocery store, bins, plastic containers, or amazon boxes. You will also need:
Don’t get caught up in having matching containers and making everything perfect! Remember, our goal here is to clear clutter and get started sorting. Focus on being able to sort, not on how the containers look! Perfection can be a big obstacle for anyone looking to clear clutter.
If you are more visual, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tSHfl8utPes.
Begin by LABELING all four of your empty containers:
TO GO TRHOUGH — these are all the items you will be going to sort. Just load it on up to begin. When it is empty, reload.
KEEP — the items you want to keep. I know many of you might be thinking, “I want to keep it all, I need that.” Right now, we are just labeling and preparing to sort. I will go into more detail in next month’s blog. (If you are ready to move forward, check out the next episode on Hoardganize: http://hoardganize.libsyn.com/where-do-i-begin-choosing-what-to-sort-3).
DONATE — contains “I am okay and feel good about donating.” I personally only donate to ONE organization until the clutter is under control. Instead of creating separate bags like hair care to a women’s shelter, keep your focus labeling your bags.
IMPORTANT — this bag is for “I cannot live without.” Some of the items might include: money, medication, keys, paper for work, urgent current and immediate items such as your mortgage bill.
Photos and collector coins could also be important. You might be confused because a lot is important to you. Focus on what is most important that needs to be addressed RIGHT NOW or today.
If you are nervous because the categories are too broad, that’s okay. It’s very normal for you to feel you this way.
Look at all you have accomplished! You created your sorting station, labeled containers and are ready to get started. Next month, I will talk about choosing what to start!
Remember, happiness is a place between too little and too much.
What is your biggest challenge when it comes to sorting? What is the first room or area you are going to begin decluttering? Share your comments below.
Still stuck with sorting? Feeling overwhelmed and need some guidance? No worries, we can help! Collector Care helps people clear clutter and get organized, including working with hoarders and hording situations as well as extreme clutter.
Call Collector Care at 925.548.7750 or email email@example.com to schedule your free 30-minute consultation.
Sometimes we can get so serious when it comes to getting organized and clearing clutter. It can sometimes be a big and overwhelming job. I wanted to share with you some of the fun things we have found on some of our jobs. There is no judgment! Let me repeat, no judgment! I have found that lightening the mood with my clients always helps and energizes them to keep going.
Here are some of our finds:
Why do you think people have held onto this stuff? Why have you held onto stuff? If someone is a hoarder, there is usually trauma associated with holding onto things. For people who aren’t hoarders, they may be afraid they might need it some day or are bothered that they might have spent a lot of money and feel if they are “losing” if they let it go.
I have also found that people are sometimes afraid to return items. What’s holding you back from clearing that clutter that may turn into a photo above? The worst that can happen is that they say no and take no returns. The best that can happen is you shed clutter and get some money back! Any items that the department store will not take – immediately donate! Do not come home; go straight to the donation center.
In my professional experience, I have found that once my clients do about five separate returns they are much more cautious during their initial shopping excursions and end up bringing home less stuff that turns into clutter.
What is the craziest thing you have found when you have decluttered? What is the oldest thing you have found? Share your comments below.
If you need some help clearing your clutter (including extreme clutter and hoarding), we can help you! You don’t have to tackle your clutter by yourself. Call Collector Care at 925.548.7750 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your free 30-minute consultation to discuss how we can help you get organized and/or declutter.
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